Tools and Resources for Parental Conflict
A set of ten reflective tools to support you through relationship conflict, separation, and co-parenting. Each tool can be filled in on your phone or computer, printed, or downloaded as a PDF to keep.
These tools are companions to the Reducing Parental Conflict guide. They've been written to be supportive, gentle, and practical — work through them at your own pace, in any order. There's no right or wrong answer.
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The tools
- The Wheel of Life Reflect on the balance across different areas of your life.
- I Statements Turn blaming thoughts into clear, respectful expressions of feeling.
- Healthy Boundaries List the boundaries that matter to you and plan when to talk about them.
- Activities Plan quality time with your partner, your children, and yourself.
- Perspectives See a situation through your co-parent's eyes and explore compromises.
- Gaining Insight Reconnect with what first drew you together, and what you value now.
- Reflection Questions for Couples Past, present, and future prompts to print and swap with your partner.
- Miracle Questions Imagine how things would look and feel if the conflict were resolved.
- Points of View "If they really valued me…" / "If I really valued them…"
- SMART Goals Turn ideas into clear, achievable actions with a deadline.
About these tools
Thank you for taking the time to use this guide. We hope it supports you in creating a healthy, happy, and nurturing environment for both you and your family. Wishing you all the very best as you continue your journey in co-parenting with care, compassion, and confidence.